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Maybe.  Maybe not.  Perhaps the world will end on Friday.  Perhaps it will simply be another winter solstice.  Doesn’t really matter to me.  I love my life and don’t feel like I’ve missed out on anything I should have done if it’s all going to end on the 21st.  Then again, I won’t mind sticking around for a while longer if the apocalypse does not, in fact, decide to make an appearance.

Regardless of Mayan calendar accuracy or lack thereof, it feels heavy around me lately.  I seem to be hearing about a lot of deaths, and that started before the Connecticut school tragedy.  I have a good friend who called me last week and simply asked, through tears, if I could send him love because he was going through a rough time.  That same day, a potential client called saying she was at the end of her rope, and did I think maybe Rolfing could help when nothing else had?  People in my life who never get sick are coming down with the flu.  And I’ll be honest; I’m freaked out about the lack of precipitation we’ve had, even if I’ve been loving the sunny days.

In the end, it’s all okay.  Whether we all die on Friday or not, everybody dies, as painful as that is for the ones who are left behind.  Sometimes we need to go through rough times in order to realize what’s not working and what other possibilities might exist.  Sometimes we have to reach the end of our rope before we’ll try something that seems totally insane, but just might work.  Sometimes the flu has to come and remind us to slow down and not work so hard.  And sometimes there is drought in December in Colorado.  That’s just the way it works.  It may not be easy or comfortable, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad.

I’m not trying to brag, but through all the heaviness of late, I’ve been feeling exceptionally good.  Not that I haven’t had a rough day here or there, but in general, I’m in a good place.  Which means I’ve been able to provide a calm harbor for some of the stormy stuff happening around me.  Yes, you can cry on my shoulder.  Yes, I’ll gladly give you a hug, and another one after that, if you want it.  Please, go ahead and tell me all about your hard day and I’ll make you some tea.  What a blessing to be able to provide that for others.  It’s been such a pleasure to be able to pour out love to people and situations that need it.  I know it’s cliché, but it’s true: the more love I pour out, the more I feel pouring down on me from the universe.

I know that you may be hurting right now.  Or you might be on top of the world and living the good life.  Either way, it’s okay.  I just want to ask that if you’re hurting, you ask for what you need, as scary and difficult as that might be.  I need a hug.  I need you to sit on the couch with me.  I need you to take me out and distract me from myself for a few hours.  Please don’t be afraid to ask for help, or love, or kindness, and to keep asking until you get what you need.

And I’m also asking that if you feel amazing, that you please be gentle with those who don’t.  Try to exercise a little patience, since you’re not in a hurry.  Try to be a little more sensitive, since you’re not feeling vulnerable.  Try to be kind, since you’re not feeling hurt or sad.  Because while breakdowns are natural and necessary, they’re not easy or fun.  We’ve all been in that place where things feel too difficult to manage.  So I’m asking that if you have gentleness and love to spare, that you spread them around.

It may be the end of the world as we know it, but I feel fine.  If the apocalypse happens on Friday, it’s been a pleasure knowing you.  I’m grateful for your presence in my life and I love you.  And if Armageddon doesn’t come, the same is still true and happy winter and enjoy your weekend!

I get the same question all the time.  And it’s about time I just laid it out for you, Sassy Pants, plain and simple, once and for all.  The question is not, “How do you do that magic that you do!?” or “How did you get into Rolfing in the first place?” although that’s a common one.  Maybe next week’s post can get into that.  Unfortunately for both you and me, the most common question is not “Can I schedule ten more sessions right now?”  Wanna know what the most popular question of all time (in my practice) is?  Well, of course you do, so here it is:  Does anybody ever fall asleep during a session?

And the answer, of course, is yes.  Yes; a million times over, yes.  People fall asleep during sessions all the time and it’s perfectly normal and acceptable and nothing to be embarrassed about.  In fact, of the close to 50 Rolfing sessions I’ve received in the last four years since I first tried it out, I’ve probably stayed awake through three of them.  Possibly.  Maybe it was only the two.  I lost count with all the sleeping I was doing in between.

The thing is, I want you to be engaged during your sessions with me.  I want you to show up ready to meet me halfway.  I can only change what you’ve allowed me to change.  And you can do more from the inside than I can do from the outside.  Part of the whole point of this work is embodiment, meaning that your consciousness is in and related to your body.  If you’re hungover from a rough night, disassociation (the opposite of embodiment)  may be the most comfortable option for you, and that’s no good for me.  So, yes, I want you to be present and participating in the work we do together.  But, that doesn’t mean you can’t fall asleep.

Huh?

Well, first of all, my goal is to bring about health.  And if you’re sleep deprived, like most people in this country today, then sleep may be the quickest way to bring about health.  So go for it.  More power to you.

Secondly, I don’t think it always has to do with sleep deprivation when you (or I) fall asleep on the table.  I still fall asleep during sessions and I use an alarm to wake up about four times a year, so I don’t think I’m sleep deprived.  I still fall asleep while getting Rolfed immediately after a large cup of coffee and I’m so sensitive to caffeine I usually don’t sleep well at midnight if I had black tea at 8am.  So I think there’s more to it than tiredness.  I think sometimes (often) with a good session of bodywork, big shifts can happen not only in the structure, but on the emotional, spiritual, mental, and energetic side of things as well.  And as we let go of certain traumas and blockages, the ego may try to get in the way, claiming it needs to hold onto that issue for whatever reason.  “I have a bad back” may be part of your story.  And if we shift things so that’s no longer true, your ego may feel a little frantic, wondering how you’ll define yourself in the future.  “I was abused” may be true, but if we let go of the painful trauma around that, will you still be you?  Your ego might not think so.  And so, when your body is making big shifts in the direction of health, it might be helpful to get your ego out of the way.  And so, you “fall asleep” or go into what some people call a healing trance.  You’re still conscious enough to stretch your right arm out, or roll over onto your stomach if I ask you to.  But you’re not conscious enough to fight what your body needs.

At least, that’s how I justify all the sleeping I do during sessions.  You can come up with your own excuses, if you’d prefer.  Regardless, know that, yes, plenty of people fall asleep during sessions, and I don’t mind if you snore.