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The only thing I do every day is brush my teeth.  I mean, technically, that’s not true, of course, because I open my eyes every day and I breathe every day and I eat every day and I drink water every day.   But you know what I mean.  The only helpful habit I’ve cultivated (that’s not demanded for life) is brushing my teeth every day.  Some people do yoga every day.  Some people meditate every day.  Some people take a multivitamin every day.  I brush my teeth, and that’s it.

Not that I haven’t tried to do other things daily.  I’ve gone through (relatively short) periods where I meditated every day.  I’ve taken different supplements for weeks or months at a time.  I like yoga.  But brushing my teeth is the only thing I do every, single, day.  So, when it is suggested to me, or I suggest to myself, that I start a new something, every day, my response, both to myself and to others, is usually something along the lines of, why bother?  How many bottles of half-finished supplements have I thrown out because after 3 weeks of diligent supplementing, I’ve completely forgotten about them until they expired?  How many yoga/gym/class memberships have I purchased for a great month of sweating to be followed by a few months of guilt and eventual cancellation?  Which means that I often don’t do things that I know are good for me.  Things that would make my life better.  The knowledge that I’m probably not going to be able to keep this up every day, forever, stops me from even starting.

But then I went to the dentist.  For the first time in 4 years.  Don’t judge me.  And the dentist said I needed to start flossing.  (I know, I know, I should’ve started flossing a long time ago.  But I didn’t.  Probably because I tried to to it every day, failed, and gave up.)  As it stands, I floss when I’m bored, standing in the bathroom with the medicine cabinet open, and the floss catches my eye.  As you can imagine, this is about twice a year.  Or, not as often as I should be flossing.  The dentist had the audacity to suggest that I should floss every day.  Which is approximately 363 times more per year than I’m currently flossing.  Naturally, I thought to myself, “That’s not going to happen.”  Clearly, my dentist hadn’t gotten the memo about me only doing one thing every day.  But then, something strange happened.  I went home, and the next day, I flossed.  And then, about a week later, I flossed again.  And then a week after that, I flossed again.

And then I felt silly.  Why even bother flossing once a week?  And then, I thought, “Wait a minute.  What if it’s not silly?”  I mean, flossing once a week has to be better than flossing twice a year, right?  I mean, it’s 26 times better than flossing twice a year!  And, if I’m 34 (and a half) now, and I live to be 100, I could end up flossing 3,275 times more in the next 65 and half years than I would if I just stuck with my regular schedule of twice a year.  That seems to me like a pretty significant improvement.  So maybe it’s not so silly.

And who knows?  Every now and again, I might get the urge to floss twice in a week.  Or three times.  Maybe next year, or in 2020, I could commit to flossing every other day.  Which might not be enough to make my dentist happy, but it’s a helluva lot better than twice a year.

As you may have gleaned by now, I’m not one for new year’s resolutions.  Not that I have any problem with you having them.  By all means, go right ahead.  They’re just not for me.  But, that being said, I do have things I’d like to work on this year.  And I’ve decided to try applying my new flossing approach to them.

For example, I’m trying to sit less, and stand and move more.  And instead of saying, “I will only stand while I write emails and check facebook; never again shall I sit!”  I’ve put my laptop up on a pile of books so that it makes more sense to stand than to sit.  Sure, I can and do take my laptop to the couch when I want to.  But now it’s more effort to sit than to stand, so through my own laziness, I’m standing more than I was before.  I’ve also switched to walking to work more than driving or riding my bike.  I’d love to say that I only walk to work and that I never drive.  But I drove to work on Friday and that doesn’t mean I’m a failure.  I’m still standing and walking more than I was before.  And I count that as a win.

I’ve gotten really excited about this idea of little changes over long periods of time adding up to big differences in the end.  And letting go of the idea that a habit is only good if I do it every single day.  It just makes me happy to come to terms with teeth brushing being my only every-day-habit.  I don’t have to do push-ups every day.  I don’t have to eat kale instead of cheese burgers for the rest of my life.  I don’t have to meditate for an hour a day, every day.  Doing 5 push-ups this week is better than no push-ups.  Even if I swap kale for a cheese burger once this year, it’s a step in the right direction.  And 2 minutes of meditation are better than zero minutes of meditation.

So that’s what I’m going with.  Baby steps.  And no beating myself up when I don’t floss.  Compassion always, even (especially) for myself.

SassyPants, I don’t know what it is.  I’ve had a block about writing a blog post for so long now.  Months and months.  Clearly.  Every time I had the thought “I should write a post,” I would immediately start shutting myself down.  Why?  What do I have to say?  Nothing important, really.  And whatever I have to say, I’m sure they’ve heard it before.  Probably from someone smarter and more articulate than me.  And in this world of so-much-information-available-all-the-time, I don’t really want to add to the clutter, do I?  No, I do not.  So there, I should NOT write a blog post after all.  And so it went.

But today, I’m choosing a different option.  I’m not making a resolution, ’cause I’m not a resolution sort of girl.  I’m just writing this one blog post.  Whether or not I have anything important or smart or articulate to say.  I’m really excited about 2015 and I know a lot of other people are, too.  Big things are on the horizon.  I’m training for my first ultra marathon!  I’m committing to strengthening and deepening the relationships that feed my soul!  I’m going to try recipes I’ve never tried before (including tonight’s African sweet potato peanut butter soup)!  Someday I’ll actually put plants in the planters in my (still new to me) office!  It’s going to be great.  And that’s reason enough to write.

So, happy new year!   I’ve missed you!  Maybe I’ll write again before next year!  (But I’m a big fan of setting really small, extra-manageable goals, and I don’t want to promise something I might not follow-through on, so let’s just play it by ear, shall we?)

Happy New Year, SassyPants! I hope your holidays were lovely and just what you wanted them to be. I spent all of Christmas day in my pajamas, so it was a success in my book.

So this is the time of year when everyone’s making resolutions and starting fitness programs and cutting calories and whatnot. More power too ‘em. Generally speaking I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. I think January’s a crappy time to start new projects since this time of year is all about rest, introspection, and slow germination. Spring is the time for new projects and ambitious goals. On the other hand, I’ve had a strange feeling lately. It’s as if I know, deep in my bones, that the habits I form now, the patterns I create now, are the ones that are going to stick with me for the rest of my life. This isn’t the time to plant new seeds. But it is the time to start looking through the seed catalogs to pick out what I will plant in March, April, and May.

It feels like now is the time for me to decide what I want to grow in my life. Instead of “Lose 20 pounds by May 1st,” I’d rather cultivate a healthy, active lifestyle. I love biscuits and gravy. But do I want to be the sort of person who eats biscuits and gravy for breakfast every day? Or would I rather be the sort of person who enjoys them a few times a year, as a treat? ‘Cause let me tell you, I LOVE me some biscuits and gravy, but I never get up after a plate of them feeling amazing. And I want to feel amazing pretty much every day. So I need to figure out what I can do to feel amazing pretty much every day. This is what I came up with. My list of things I’d like to cultivate; this month, this year, this lifetime.

-A positive outlook
-Spontaneous dancing (including, but not limited too: dance-walking, dance-cooking, dance-cleaning, and general booty-shaking)
-Connecting with family
-Expecting abundance
-Healthy, delicious home-cooked meals
-Lots of laughter
-An active life
-Vitamin D supplements every winter
-Generosity
-Hugs and snuggles
-Loving the animals in my life
-Random acts of kindness
-Gigantic, overwhelming love
-Smiling at strangers
-Quality time spent with quality people
-Patience
-Lots of kissing
-Dreaming big
-Gratitude
-Reading a lot
-Growing plants, including my food
-Embracing down-time
-Making things from scratch
-Being enough, right now, in this moment
-Quality over quantity in every aspect of my life
-Beautiful, sacred spaces
-Time spent outdoors
-Getting enough sleep every single night
-Listening: to my body, to my intuition, to the earth, and to my friends
-Going deeper; getting to the heart of it
-Stretching: physically, mentally, emotionally

So what about you, SassyPants?  Are you a resolution maker?  Are there things you want to cultivate in your life? Who are you going to be (today, this year, this lifetime)? And are you brave enough to share it with everyone here in the comments?

Happy growing!

While I was in Chicago last week, I got a good question from one of my clients that I thought I’d share:  What happens when a client comes in with no pain?  Short answer:  I get really excited.

Now, for the long answer…

See, most of the people I see in my office are there looking to “fix” something, as you know because you watched last week’s interview, right?.  Your shoulder; your back; your left pinky toe; they all hurt and you want them not to hurt.  Which is great, and I get it.  Pain sucks; you want it to go away.  I want that, too.  And until we get rid of the pain, you’re not going to be able to focus on much else.

But my “real” goal as a Rolfer and as a SourcePoint Therapist is to allow health to manifest.  I want your true self to come forth and shine in its most vibrant form.  Don’t you want that, too?!?  Getting rid of the pain may be the first step in the process, but once that’s accomplished, we can focus on encouraging health and vibrancy.

So when a client comes in with no pain, I get excited.  It’s rare, you see, for someone to walk in my door just because they’re curious.  Just because they want to see what this Rolfing thing is all about.  Just because they heard that Rolfing could make you more you.  But when it happens, I love it.  Then, we get down to business.  This particular client, who has no pain, is the perfect candidate for the traditional 10-series because it’s such a thorough full-body tune up.  But 10 sessions is a big commitment and until you’re absolutely ready, it’s not the sort of thing you want to rush into.  So generally, we start the same way I’d start any other session, by setting the 4 diamond points and doing a scan.  Generally when people come in with no physical pain, we get to explore other layers of their being, such as the emotional, traumatic, or karmic blockages that may be preventing health from manifesting.  Often, this is tied up in the physical, but they’re not aware of the holding patterns, so we work on bringing awareness and releasing restrictions.

Working with clients who have no pain can throw me a little off kilter, seeing as I’m so used to working with a goal in mind.  But it also leaves a lot of room for creativity and just trusting the energy to lead me to the right place.  With no goal of “fixing the back pain,” I don’t worry that my own intentions or projections are skewing my intuition or the sourcepoint scans I’m doing.  Everything’s on the table, so to speak.  Nothing is too “off base” to be considered.  So, in the end, when a client comes in with no pain, I get excited.

 

Thanks for your help with Demo Day!
Next month there won’t be a Demo Day, but they’ll start back up on June 16th.

Want to learn how to do SourcePoint yourself?
One of the founders of SourcePoint Therapy is coming to Boulder May 18th-20th to teach an introductory class for anyone who wants to take it.  You don’t have to be a bodyworker or healthcare practitioner.  This form of energy work is easy to learn and very powerful for maintaining your own health as well as the health of your family members.  The cost is $375.  For more information, please contact Dave Sheldon at 303-519-2412.

Meditation/Bodywork Retreat
The Posture of Meditation:  Breathing Through the Whole Body.  October 26-November 4th, in Crestone, Colorado with Will Johnson.  Combining meditation techniques with Rolfing.  Participants will receive a Rolfing session every other day for a total of 5 sessions, while spending several hours each day in meditation.  If interested, please let me know.